Eliminating Stress Through Intentions and Prayers covers: * Why Setting Intentions Can Help Get What you Want: How different emotions affect life outcomes. * How Yoga Helps Manage Stress: Breathing and Yoga Practice for Stress Management * The Ho’oponopono Prayer: Health, Mind & Body Benefits
You’re going through all sorts of emotions and thoughts.. But instead of identifying with those thoughts.. And giving those thoughts an emotion’s power… we’re just observing them… and that's the art of mindfulness..
Bring yourself… at a calm state and just relax.. And breathe in and breathe out.. In a way that.. Now you’re not.. Being diverted by those thoughts..
When you’re angry is like.. Holding onto a burning cold.. At the end only you get burned..
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Gregg Braden I mean he's where I kinda learned to practice setting an intention and you know and is to feel like as it's already happening it's like the grand dance prayer in his book The Lost Mode of Prayer, you know it actually talks about that… hidden fifth mode that people just kinda, it just.... I guess it just wasn't there anymore in the Biblical texts right?
-Yeahhh
And you know, at some point somewhere along the way that's what happened but then there's just the feeling as it already happened, really just kind of removing time and just basically saying hey, you know what would happen if time was an illusion and If I decide to say this prayer and next thing you know you are deciding to evoke the feeling because as soon as you evoke the feeling it's already happening in some other reality, right?
-Yeahh absolutely, and that's going back into like the state change, so basically when you are praying from a place of lack - which is like, oh god I really want this - right? And it's the feeling that is backed with so it's almost like you are saying you want that thing but if you're in your heart feeling as if I don't have this thing yet then its coming from a place of lack and it's very difficult to then like create it and manifest it because it's almost like you are doing it from a place of lack and that feeling is creating more of your reality but the fifth mode of prayer, praying from a state of okay it's already happened or even if its like its not already happened because you don't want to feel delusional it can from a place of trust and faith like- I've asked God for it I have 100% trust in faith in God and I know now, the greatest outcome will come about, doing it from that place its from a place of faith, its from a place of gratitude, appreciation, love and when you are feeling all of those emotions in your heart it's much easier to create the reality that you want -
So I guess, that's the whole process of letting go cause as Abraham Hicks would put it, you just experienced some contrast, for that contrast you wouldn't know you what you want like we wouldn't be able to find more space, bigger home or whatever if we didn't know what we wanted that came from contrast right, and then basically you express your desire, express your intent, however there's a point we have to create less separation between where do you feel like you're at and you're not at, it's like the whole analogy that Esther talked about with the concept of the car in the garage, right?
Yeahhh, I Love that one.
It's like, I see the car is not there or it's just not there and now you're basically forming yourself that it's just not there and that's what basically is introducing more separation from your reality because intuitively you know that reality exists, it's evoking that feeling... it's there... it has to be there
Exactly yeah
But then why is it not there?... Its because you are focusing on the latter
Yeah and that's where I feel like you know the law of attraction is labeled like so esoteric and voodoo because I feel like people just don't understand the whole concept of law of attraction where its not like you know, you're not pretending you're living in a 1000 sq ft home but you're imagining it it's a 5000 sq ft home and now you're telling everyone and you know... you feel delusional... that's not the point, the point is the feeling that's backed why, right?
So it's more so, about what would it feel like, ... to live in a 5000sq ft home, what are the levels of appreciation you would feel gratitude, and now feel those things like, become that person....
That's where affirmation is coming.... that's where affirmations can really start to add this great layer on top of that.. I mean Loius Hayes is amazing at that, at really honing down on that and how affirmations and choosing specific words and really bring transformational vocabulary.... Tony Robbins actually.. You know he wrote in his book Awakening the Giant Within, he talks about transformational vocabulary, you know choosing the words internally that you use.. and externally!
Yeah exactly, like so.. you know being so condescending of what words you're using for example if you go around saying: I'm stressed, I'm so stressed, I'm feeling so stressed - how are you gonna feel, right?
Or I'm tired, I'm so tired- like you know?
Yeah so it's very important to just be very mindful of what words you're using - I love mindfulness so you know... I love mindfulness, but mindfulness is really like you know always observing yourself it's like you know I know Eckhart Tolle is one of our favorite authors and he talks about becoming the observer where you know like you're going into all sorts of emotions and thoughts but instead of identifying with those thoughts and giving those thoughts and emotions power, you're just observing them and that's the art of mindfulness
And you can do that, then you know during the day to day, right? You can just be observing because that's when they really show up, you know many times and It'll make things easier for you when you are actually meditating because I think that the biggest thing that I hear is sometimes people say is - oh, I can't sit through meditation , I just can't sit through it .... Well, that's because that's what your life is like, I mean that's what the reality is like, you probably can't sit through anything actually , because you know, you got this, thought process, these thought patterns... and the funny thing is that with these thought patterns they sort of go pfffff... like that
Down the Rabbit Hole
Down the Rabbit Hole and now next thing you know you've triggered all sorts of sympathetic responses that you don't need right now youre not in a calm state. Now not the same you know like sympathetic responses are actually good sometimes, I mean it's there, I meant there's a reason why orgasm is a sympathetic response. you know? There are different reasons, however you have to sometimes calm, bring yourself at a calm state and just relax and bring that reality in a way were now you're not being diverted by those thoughts, not having that switch brain, your attention can be split
Yeah exactly and what happens with most people is that they're imagining the worst case scenario so those thoughts lead to imagining the worst case scenario but imagine if you turned it over its head and started imagining the best case scenario. I mean why are we so wired to feel like what could go wrong when we can focus on what could go right
And the beautiful thing is that the quicker you are able to... it's not to say that you are going to be delusional and now you're like there are no leads - but the thing is that you know you can actually start to acknowledge that, come to terms with it, a lot quicker and as you start to get into the practice... you release it, you just release it and the interesting thing is that as you release it more you're much better at expressing your desires, you're like oh, I want that, okay boom it's here
Yeah, yeah because you are eliminating the time, space separation of what you want
Exactly.
Yeah, yeah it's beautiful. Another thing, like I feel is amazing, amazing ,amazing for stress is yoga. And What I find really amazing about yoga is that it really helps cultivate the mind - body - connection so, basically, like it's very different from sports because what happens with Sports is that yes, you're exercising that mind body connection, like I've seen you play squash and yes that's a lot of like focus, that goes into the sport so you're definitely cultivating that mind body connection there, but yoga is like in a very relaxed state in a very mindful state, like with your parasympathetic nervous system turned on it really establishes that mind body connection, so what do I mean by that? Some people would be highly analytical so they're always on their mind and some people are very kinesthetic, so they're always on their body and this is very common in athletes they are usually in their body and they don't. they're not really aware of what's going on in the mind and for analytical people it's the opposite were they dont really know whats going on with their body so Yoga really helps bring that balance and harmony and creates the communication between the left hemisphere of the brain and the right hemisphere of the brain its what creates that hard brain coherence, so now you're like more in tune with your body and your mind at the same time and like studies shows that not only does that impact cortisol levels in bring those down but it also increases your heart rate variability where.... so basically... your heart rate variability is an indicator of how well you manage stress not like how frequently you experience stress but how you manage stress so heart rate variability is a direct factor that shows us how well you manage and cope with stress
The Harvard Institute has done great... tremendous amount of research in making that happen and you know so... it's kinda interesting because I guess it's a measurement of the space between the pulses right? The Beats
Yeah, yeah, yup.
Interesting.... the interesting thing about that is that, you can actually then start to determine more openness and you know and achieving hard coherence it's one thing I guess it comes through that essential energy which I guess Yoga can actually help you do, cause there different forms, kundalini....
Yeah kundalini Yoga
So then, I guess the energy kinda comes from down below and then up the chakras, right? So, now, with that ascension of that energy you got like essentially... you feel it... if you do this right, you start to have, you feel your heart
The Heart is shattered. Yeah, so the heart is the center so it's where we like.. I guess very significant in that ascension of energy so opening your heart if you just feel as if you're breathing from your heart, so just picture your heart with nostrils in it and it's like your heart is breathing in and breathing out, inhale and exhale through your heart You begin to really experience that heart brain coherence
And the interesting thing is then it actually becomes an avenue for healing and actually starts to open up and thats you know one of the ways that not only are you healing yourself because you're opening your heart but now you are allowing yourself to be your vessel for healing, which is why we have now all of a sudden a lot of healers showing up on this climate
Long behold, they are healers, it's true. They are healers because they now have locked into the ability to achieve better heart coherence and that allows them to just simply be a vessel for healing, which is why many great heroes don't try to identify with it, because they really feel like they're not even doing the work... they're a vessel for it .. but it actually comes through and now you are able to actually deliver that energy right? And essentially you are able to
do that and you are able to work with healers and everything you know
Yeah thats for like Reiki or energy healing when it comes in and it's, it's so beneficial, like we've seen it happened like F front of our eyes
Yeah, what was really interesting was when we went to go see Doctor Joe Dispenza and you know a lot of... we were part of a lot of co heal and healing with him and it was very crazy to have like 6 or 7 people formed around - one person just needs it and now all of a sudden you're feeling that energy as well because not only its that healing energy given- its shared, it's so beautiful.
It heals you in the process , like the process of healing someone else heals you in the process and what I have found really amazing is like the collective so if you have a healing circle but there is more people, the more the number of people the more the healing that takes place in the room and one of the things that like confirmed that for me was that you know when Dr Joe said okay everyone tune in to the energy of the room, right? Then all of a sudden I felt this intense energy, like it was much more intensified then what you would feel like on an individual level. So its like this collective coherent healing that's taking place in the room and the more people you have in the room, the more intensified the healing
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So then as you now start to do that and you start to actually you know, build that state you actually find mastery, it's like a skill, right? It really is at the end of the day and as you start to build that as like a skill, you can start to do that, and that is kinda why we ended up working so hard and diligently to build meditations for us, you know and to be able to now do that, that's gonna actually help us start to continue to achieve those things and that's how we're able to move and navigate out of each and every single state so for example, there's times when I'm like holy crap, I just worked for 4 hours straight, Im feeling it... and you know, you just want to.. part of you just like I wanna finish I wanna finish and I wanna get it done right? But then you just kinda like okay, you know what? It's important that you recognize when you're pushing yourself, the minute you recognize it you're able to say you know what, it will probably help that I go meditate for like 15 min or so and just as little as 15 minutes, you're able to make a shift and so you know the center meditation that we're actually giving for free as we already agreed it's gonna actually help you achieve hard coherence because the deep Beta Brain Waves are going to evoke that hard opening right? and as you start to relax and as you start to.. and that's when you're just like... wow , okay , wow
Yeah and now there's actually like researching supporting that when it comes to the CNS, the Central Nervous System , the chemical signals sent from the heart to the brain are actually significantly higher than the number of chemical signals that are sent from the brain to the heart
Yeah it's all the way around, up the vase nerve, right?
Yeah, exactly. Which is why you know the center meditation I find it really helpful for me because I can instantly feel my heart responding to it right away
Uhmm, got it and that's the interesting thing, with just as little as 15 minutes. I realized that that was an investment in the state right? So rather than taking hours of being stressed out in front of a computer, I was able to come back, meditate. Get that 15 minutes meditation, come back to the computer, I'm like wow, Am I feeling appreciative?
Like a different person
A greatful.. wait! As you and Dr Joey has put it, you are actually becoming you know the future, you are, like you are in the future as well , right, so?
And like when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. When Diar once said, so what begins to happen it's like, okay you left the computer in that state but you come back to the computer in a completely different state and now, your reality, like... is shifted because you know the reticular activation system it actually just looks for things that you are already thinking about so it's very like filtered so for example like let's say you just learned about you know Geranium Essential Oil and now you're seeing Geranium Essential Oil popped out everywhere but thats your Reticular activation system those things were already in your reality but now you're filtering perception to now see that more and more so what happens with this instant state change is you're reticular activation system is recalibrated so when you come back if it was an email that upset you now suddenly you come back and that email is no longer in your reality and instead you see something really positive that you know, oh like you just noticed the revenues of your business actually went up by 15% this month
That's because you meditated on that state, you decided that you're not gonna be a past version of yourself, you meditated on the state, of that future version of yourself and now you've decided to let go and you've said you know what I'm not going to try and change matter by matter- as once said , you know, you are basically deciding to change the information we are 99,99999% information
Exactly, yeah and the thing is like where you put your focus is where you put your energy that's why like I've completely stopped responding to like people and their reactions or like an email it just doesn't stress me, doesn't make me feel any negative emotions anymore because Im like why would I direct my energy towards that or why would I give my energy to this problem or this person when really that energy can be used for something so much better right? So that's like really about like you know, directing your energy towards the right things and directing your focus towards the right things and it's so helpful I mean like you know the Budha said that when you are angry it's like holding onto a burning cold at the end only you get burned, but that's the thing with any negative emotion like we feel if someone stresses us out by something they said or you know how they behaved towards you, now only you are getting affected but the minute you decide to like forgive and let go, like forgiveness is actually a very selfish act.. it actually benefits you so somehow I don't know why I think it's so twisted when you really think about it but somehow we feel like we're directing negative emotions towards a person, that persons getting affected but the irony of the situation is, nooo, you're the one getting affected, right?
Exactly
Yeah, That's the one thing I, you know, I learned we, when we, spent a good amount of time at Bob and Linda Crofter, and the interesting thing is that their intense focus on the solution has always been so fantastic and even Sandy Fon and that's really you know, super important, because as you start to maintain the vibration of the solution, you begin to stay there, you know and yeah you can acknowledge the contrast you know, and as you start to acknowledge the contrast you begin to immediately make a shift of your focus, immediately, absolutely yeah. And forgiveness is so huge as well like that's another thing that I learned from Bob Proctor and Sandy Gallagher where they tell you to forgive 3 people everyday like after your meditation, forgive 3 people and then send love to them which is so amazing because you're almost kind of like you know, rewriting the past in a way and you're not letting your past dictate your present and your future and just you know making peace with those people because you don't want that creating your reality in the present or in the future and I've found that to be so helpful
It's like chords, right? I mean, we first learned about these chords and we went to see Gabby Bernstein at a He/ How conference and she started talking about chords and I'm like holy sh*t, chords? Like you know, and yeah you can actually have...
Energetic chords to go onto those people
Wow
And if you look at it energetically yeah its true they will show up in your energetic you know, field
And you actually make them a part of your serendipity as well,
Exactly, now you are like ugh this person again , why do you think this person keeps popping out in your reality, because you are inviting them, you are inviting them to the party.
But it's also kind of beautiful because that person might be there to teach you a lesson,
That's so true! that's so true! and that's what I usually do like Louise Hay has also contributed so much to like forgiveness work as well and so like I took from a lot of different places to devote my own forgiveness practice but it's almost like forgive the person you send love and then you also see what lesson did they teach you, how did it help you become a better person and like all of the time you always like... I know like some of us, some of us have been through very difficult experiences and they're like oh I dont know what you are talking about, I don't know how I can possibly forgive this person and I can understand and I can really like, empathize with that as well. However if you just..just making that choice to forgive you don't have to say you know.. okay yeah I really dislike this person and they make me feel so terrible or you know this event happened and just making that choice, choice is so powerful where you're just saying, and this is Louise Hay again like shes amazing, just saying the words I am willing to forgive, you know, that's like everything else just falls into place, you've already taken the first step, you've surrendered and now its just gonna happen like you don't know how, but you will forgive the person
There's some more direct and easy ways too... I guess that... I learned from you that "Ho’oponopono " prayer
Ohh yeah I love that one, so I have a bracelet as well "Hop on upon a" is beautiful so basically it means, "Im sorry, I forgive you, thank you, I love you" which is beautiful because a lot of us forgive others but we don't forgive ourselves so even when its an event that... where you may have felt as if you're the perpetrator or you feel terrible for, you have to forgive yourself you know and in order to forgive others its very important to practice self forgiveness, you know like, your compassion is incomplete until you practice self compassion, so that's why I love that simple prayer because it's such a simple word "Ho’oponopono " but Im sorry , instantly when you say I'm sorry you're forgiving yourself, then you say, I forgive you which now you've forgiven the other person - thank you, which is like, acknowledging the lesson, or how they've helped you grow, and then "I love you " which is just coming back to a state of love
Uhmm, and the interesting thing is that you start to realize that a lot of the connections are again, they are... you know, there's a reason why they say your gut is your second brain because you've got mixed connections the same way that your brain does so that's why we can feel emotions like guilt or anything like that through the gut because now, all of a sudden, those nerves act like a collection of neurons that can happen in different places in your body so now you're releasing all of that
Exactly, yeah. It's so wonderful. I really love that practice of forgiveness, so much that and if you... you can even meditate with the word "Ho’oponopono " , so it you just sit there in silence for like 5 minutes, just say Ho’oponopono 111 times - its so impactful, like any time you feel the need to forgive someone you can do that meditation as well. Another thing that, I wanted to just mention is like forgiveness work it's so important because what happens if you don't forgive an event from your past is that you keep recreating that event in your present and in your future so like for example if its like you know most people think that oh, this person is really making me feel this way and I don't want them to be a part of my reality anymore okay, so now you've stopped talking to that person but then another person shows up exactly like that person, why do you think that is, right? Because its like you haven't forgiven the past, you haven't learned the lesson, it's almost like identifying in that moment okay so what is this person trying to teach me and just taking responsibility like if I, this is another amazing technique that I learned from the Untethered Soul is like if someone is making you feel an specific way - who sees that feeling? - Who feels that feeling? and ultimately You take responsibility because it's like you see that feeling, you feel that feeling , so what you are saying, someone else has caused you to feel it's actually within you, right?
And that is something that is HUGE in couples, cause couples, they, you know, the base thing is somewhere along the way you miss each other and that usually happens because you know one person is in one place and the other person is in another place, they might be saying the same thing....
Miscommunication
Yeah different languages
Cause as you know, men and women can sometimes speak very differently languages
And the interesting thing is that sympathetic responses and the parasympathetic responses are different and they vary between men and women as well but at the same time, you know, it's important to keep this in mind even when you are having discussions you know and just being forgiving enough to recognize your significant other or spouse it's just having a hard time or not, you know.
And a great tool for that as well is that, specially.. this is specially true between couples but we focus so much on like what they did and the now that we forget everything else like.. so it's almost like he did this, he doesn't care about me but then at the same time is like - but wait but what are the other times that he has shown you that he does care so its like this automatically response where you are like all that matters, is this event, and all of the other events go out of the window and you're not even considering the other events that define that person - where you're just like, how you can you define this person right now, which is this one event? That's not fair right? So automatically in that moment is like omg he doesn't care about me at all and that feeling can be so intense but if you can just be mindful and you're like hey but what are all the other times where he has shown you that he does care then automatically you're seeing the situation much more holistically and you're not defining that person with that one event, you're seeing them as a whole and you're like okay now you're focusing on the event so now your focus has shifted so of course by all means like address what person... hey, you know? I know you did this and it made me feel this way but I remember all the times that you have shown me the complete opposite so I know it's not a reflection of who you are but you know lets try and change this on how we approach things so that it doesn't make me feel this way anymore.
Exactly, it's a very, you know, these are sometimes stress responses and as Men I think, you know, like compassion goes a long way, compassion as a word adds such great energy and I think it's actually the word of now like this era because it's an emerging... It's an energy with an emerging consciousness as well and the interesting thing about this is that men are looking to practice balance after energy because it is about harmony between the masculine and the feminine , right? And as men start to find that more, they'll be listening more to their needs as well, you know with that being said, I think this is great....
Oh, another thing that I mentioned was like the quest that we created about the stressor types, so the stressor types can be very very different like for some person like you know, social situations can be very stressful for another person like because they are a perfectionist if things don't go their way or if you're out of control, they respond stressfully to that situation so there's this amazing quest that we created which helps you discover which stresser type you are so that you know what are your stress triggers and knowing that really helps you understand like what kind of practices will be most helpful at relieving stress for you.